My Story
For a long time, I thought I could think my way to healing. And honestly? I was pretty good at it. I could trace everything back to its origin, connect the dots, explain my own psychology with the kind of clarity that made therapists nod approvingly. I was, by all accounts, extremely insightful. I was also completely stuck.
Turns out, understanding your pain and actually feeling your pain are two very different things. Who knew? I was basically doing a live commentary of my own emotional experience from a very safe, very comfortable distance — and calling it growth. Spoiler: it wasn't.
It wasn't until I found a space where I felt safe enough to actually feel things — not just talk about them — that something started to lift. The emotional and the intellectual finally met each other. And that's when I realized I hadn't actually known that much after all — I'd just gotten really good at sounding like I did.
That experience lives in everything I do in the room. When someone comes in incredibly self-aware but still feeling completely stuck, I recognize it immediately. Because I've been there. And I know what's waiting on the other side of it.
Where the Story Meets the Work
A session with me probably looks pretty simple from the outside. Two people talking. But here's what's actually happening on my end.
I'm not just listening to what you're saying — I'm listening to how you're saying it. The shift in your tone. The moment your eyes go somewhere else. The thing you almost said and then didn't. I'm holding your history in one hand and what's happening right now in the other, constantly trying to figure out where it all fits.
I'm also going to help you get out of your head and into your body. Not in a weird way — just in the sense that your emotions aren't math problems to be solved. They're trying to tell you something. We slow down enough to actually hear them.
And sometimes I'm going to tell you what I'm noticing in myself while you're talking. Not because therapy is about me — it's not — but because one of the most quietly powerful things that can happen in this work is realizing that what you feel actually lands on another person. That your experience has an impact. For a lot of people, that's something they've never really gotten to feel before.
That's what's happening in the room. It's a lot. It's also kind of the whole point.